07-03-2025

UNDERSTANDING PATTERNS

👀 FIVE TO LOOK FOR

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Understanding why we end up in toxic relationships requires a deep dive into our patterns and beliefs. By identifying these influences, we can begin to break free and cultivate healthier, fulfilling connections.

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1. PEOPLE PLEASING: 🤗
   • Do you often put others' feelings and desires above your own?
   • You might find yourself saying yes to things you don’t want to do, or
   • constantly seeking approval and validation from others, even at the cost of your own needs.
2. LOW SELF ESTEEM: 🌧️
   • Are you settling for less than you deserve because you believe you’re unworthy?
   • Negative self-talk and a lack of confidence might keep you from setting healthy boundaries and recognizing your true value.
3. FEAR OF BEING ALONE: 🕊️
   • Do you stay in unhealthy relationships because the fear of loneliness is overwhelming?
   • This fear might lead you to cling to partners who don’t fulfill your emotional needs, simply to avoid solitude.
4. IDEALIZATION AND DENIAL: 🌈
   • Are you overlooking red flags because you see only the potential in others?
   • You might find yourself in denial about a partner’s behavior, focusing on who they could become rather than who they are now.
5. CO-DEPENDANCY: 🔗
   • Are you prioritizing others’ needs over your own, losing your sense of identity?
   • Codependent behaviors might include constantly trying to fix or save others, resulting in an imbalance in your relationships and neglect of your own desires.

CREATING CHANGE

🪜🏃🏻‍♀️STEPS TO TAKE

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Real change starts with your decision to transform. Discover practical steps to shift toxic patterns and nurture healthier relationships, all while prioritizing your own well-being.

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• Reflect and Identify: Take time to reflect on past relationships. Identify patterns and beliefs that have led you into toxic dynamics.

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• Set Boundaries: Learn to establish and maintain healthy boundaries. It's okay to say no and prioritize your well-being. 🛑

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• Build Self-Worth: Engage in activities that boost self-esteem and remind yourself of your worth. Surround yourself with supportive and uplifting people.
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• Seek Support: Consider coaching or counseling to explore underlying issues, develop tools and find your blind spots.
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• Practice Self-Compassion: Be gentle with yourself as you navigate this journey. Change takes time, and every step forward is progress.

REFLECTIVE JOURNAL PROMPTS

💬✍️ FOR DEEPER AWARENESS & CHANGE

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EXPLORE CHILDHOOD PATTERNS: Reflect on your childhood experiences and consider how they might have shaped your perception of relationships.

• What did you learn about what is 'normal' from your family dynamics?

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ASSESS YOUR SELF WORTH: Consider how your self-worth has influenced your relationships.

• What beliefs about yourself have you carried into adulthood?
• How can you begin to rewrite these beliefs?

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UNDERSTAND EMOTIONAL RESPONSIBILITY: Think about times when you prioritized others' emotions over your own.

• How has this affected your relationships?
• What steps can you take to prioritize your emotional well-being?

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(re)PARENTING & HEALING: Consider what messages you received about yourself as a child.

• How can you begin the re-parenting process to heal and nurture your inner child?

KICKSTARTER UPDATE

"COURAGE FINDS HIS CALM"

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